Made’s Blog

Today I attended Landmark forum, and listened to the introduction of their programme. They talked a lot about how the past experience could affect a person in making future judgments. There was also a talk about how to create and take options, take charge in our lives, and live with the consequences that we’ve made. In short, for us to live without regret.

How has past experienced affected my decision making capabilities? In the forum I heard people talking about how sour their relationship with their families. How they’ve had prejudice opinions to their partners; these opinions which are formed because of the past experience, then, act as a mental barrier between them. So whatever the other parties are trying to say, they can’t get the real message through. At that point, that was clear to me that a person’s past experiences can act as a hindrance for them when moving on to a new level of life. In my life, sometimes, this happens.

To realise that we have options, and to live the consequences from the options that we take, those are two statements that I’ve learned in the last couple of years. I am glad that there is a pool of people here in this small island that shares the same opinion as me. In this country, to tell people that they have options is rather hard to do.

I had numerous conversations with taxi driver, and I could only remember less than 5 taxi drivers that spoke highly of their lives. There was one taxi driver that I could not forget. He said he drove the taxi because he was bankrupt. He put a smile in his face when he said that. He told me, “Young man, I’ve lived a very meaningful life. I celebrated when I succeeded, and had no regrets when I failed”. I was impressed. If I become a taxi driver, I would like to tell my passenger my kind of story and put a smile in my face at the same time.
I was rather surprised that there were plenty of sharing in the forum. People are very open. They’re still friendly, even after the event. Again, that’s a rare quality in Singapore. One of the things I hate about the people here in general is that they’re somewhat reserved. There are these kinds of thoughts hanging in the air, “I don’t want to speak up if I don’t have a wonderful idea”, “I don’t know you, why should I share my things with you”, “Speaking out meaning I’ll be the center of attention. I don’t want to.”

I shared my piece of story last night with these people. From that piece of story, I told them that I’m in the middle of a junction of different decisions. In the end of the story, I thought I knew the answer already. But I know this early morning, my mind is not sure about the answer that I wanted to take. That makes me confused again. I throw a question back to myself, what do I really want in my life.
The process of making a decision is hard, not only in business world but also in real life. But what is easy is to live up with that decision. And that’s the art that I’m trying to master.

It’s been a long time since my last post to the blog. I can’t sleep tonight, I think my mind is troubled. Then I thought, what did I do when I was troubled. Suddenly, I remember that I used to write a lot. And somehow it eases the mind.

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Read to what he said and think bout it!

(Mohammad Hatta, dikutip dari tulisan berjudul “sosiologi Budaya ‘Malas’ dan ‘Rajin’ di

Nusantara” karya Waruno Mahdi)

“Orang Barat sangat mengmoekakan hasil. Hasil ditaroknja dimoeka, laloe ia berichtiar mentjapai hasil jang sebesar-besarnja jang dikehendakinja itoe dengan membanting tenaganja jang ada…. Orang Timoer mengemoekakan tenaga. Tenaga ditaroknja dimoeka, dan dengan tenaga jang paling sedikit terpakai hendak digapainja hasil jang sebesar-besarnja. Ia sedikit menggoenakan tenaga, sebab itoe hasil jang mungkin ditjapainja dengan tenaga jang sedikit itoe sedikit poela djumlahnja.”

He said, “Don’t stay put, do something for a change!”

You’re right, my friend. The sun never waits and I’ve gotta pick my lazy bum off the chair.

At 1.40 am, I can’t sleep. My mind is troubled now, and one ways for me to clear it is by writing. To describe it in words, there are plenty of things happening in my brain, and I can only process one thing at a time. Sometimes there’s only one thought, but this thought is like a jumbled story, the beginning and the end are not clear. How can I make a perfect story without sorting the beginning and the end first.

Heck, for 22 years living in this world, I have learned lessons, and more often than not, I learned it the hard way. The worst part of learning a new experience is the process to learn it. But after the experience is gained, it would be much better. I can even laugh about what happened in the past, and state to others that what happened to me in the past was just a glitch in my life story.

Sometimes I wonder, if I can get everything in this life. Currently, my ‘everything’ is defined into careers, family which are my parents, circle of friends, and romantic relationship. Tell me I am greedy, but somehow I think I can manage to get this everything.

I believe in the concept of Karma and Reincarnation. Life in this earthly world is a suffering. The existence of human in this world is to learn things so that its soul can unify with the universe (God) and to escape from this earthly world. If a soul is imperfect, then it would reincarnate again to finish its mission to be perfect, and its current existence in this earthly world is affected by the previous lives (karma).

That’s how I explain things which happen to me, karma and reincarnation. Things happen because of my karma, things don’t happen because of that as well. I would learn from it, and I know what I learn now won’t end up in cemetery. Because I will reincarnate again if there is any unfinished lessons I need to learn again.

There are things which are better communicated with:

• phones
• emails
• face-to-face conversations
• SMS

That depends on:

• how urgent you want the information to be communicated
• the urgency level of the feedback
• how accurate the information transfer

And sometimes I am confused to receive an extra piece of info/question

which is communicated via a means

which I don’t think is appropriate

e.g.: sending one SMS with plenty of questions. It expects me to answer all the questions. Why not sending me an email instead???

That’s the reason why I haven’t replied your sms, yani =).

I’m not gonna eat instant noodles anymore. Unless in a very important circumstances in which I’m not gonna survive the following day if I don’t eat anything. The last resort. Just like in a combat situation where a soldier has got to eat whatever food available in front of him. Otherwise, he won’t be able to fight the enemy tomorrow, and will be a burden for his teammates.
This bloody food has caused two acnes surfacing on my face!!! Hmmm… guess I’m returning back to be a teenager.

However though, I can’t thank this food enough. It reminds me of my high school time when I was still living in the boarding school. At night, this instant noodle is a very luxurious delicacy. It’s like caviar, or Belgian chocolates, or a glass of water in the middle of a dessert. Such was the limited resources of food available in the dormitory at night.

For those following reasons, dear Mr Instant-noodle, I thank you for what you’ve done in the past to me and my friends in the dormitory. But now as there are other edible food to replace your position of my saviour, please kindly open the door and go away out of my life.

I visit a friend’s website and suddenly it reminds me of my old passion which is writing and web management. My first domain has expired. www.eminic.com. No financial injection which can function as adrenaline to prolong it’s life in WWW.

After being dormant for about 6 months, here it comes the new domain. Simpler name which kindda describe a lot about the owner of this site. I visited some hosting services websites. I was thinking of using singcat.com as it has hosted eminic.com before. Plenty of troubles I faced with the server being up not more than 80% of the time. Sometimes the server was slow as well.

So, I compared the prices at Yahoo small business, Godaddy, and 1 more which I forget… And the choice felt to… godaddy. Coz I love my dad =).

Anyways, this blog is dedicated for the interest in Technology, Social Networking, Economics and Politics. Well, yeah… those four topics are not interconnected to each other. But hey, what’s the fun of exploring things which connections are already well known.